{"id":48266,"date":"2022-01-10T15:32:07","date_gmt":"2022-01-10T15:32:07","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.documentaria.ro\/content\/?p=48266"},"modified":"2022-01-10T15:59:47","modified_gmt":"2022-01-10T15:59:47","slug":"nu-te-gasesc-pe-nicaieri","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.documentaria.ro\/content\/archives\/48266","title":{"rendered":"Nu e vina ta"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"wpb-content-wrapper\"><p>[vc_row unlock_row_content=&#8221;yes&#8221; row_height_percent=&#8221;100&#8243; back_image=&#8221;48268&#8243; back_attachment=&#8221;scroll&#8221; back_position=&#8221;center bottom&#8221; overlay_color=&#8221;accent&#8221; overlay_alpha=&#8221;0&#8243; gutter_size=&#8221;3&#8243; shift_y=&#8221;0&#8243; row_name=&#8221;SUS&#8221;][vc_column column_width_percent=&#8221;100&#8243; position_horizontal=&#8221;left&#8221; position_vertical=&#8221;middle&#8221; overlay_alpha=&#8221;25&#8243; gutter_size=&#8221;3&#8243; medium_width=&#8221;0&#8243; shift_x=&#8221;0&#8243; shift_y=&#8221;0&#8243; z_index=&#8221;0&#8243; width=&#8221;1\/1&#8243;][vc_empty_space empty_h=&#8221;5&#8243;][vc_empty_space empty_h=&#8221;5&#8243;][\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row row_height_percent=&#8221;0&#8243; override_padding=&#8221;yes&#8221; h_padding=&#8221;2&#8243; top_padding=&#8221;0&#8243; bottom_padding=&#8221;2&#8243; overlay_color=&#8221;color-xsdn&#8221; overlay_alpha=&#8221;90&#8243; gutter_size=&#8221;3&#8243; shift_y=&#8221;0&#8243; row_name=&#8221;TEXT&#8221;][vc_column column_width_percent=&#8221;70&#8243; position_vertical=&#8221;middle&#8221; align_horizontal=&#8221;align_center&#8221; overlay_alpha=&#8221;50&#8243; gutter_size=&#8221;3&#8243; medium_width=&#8221;0&#8243; shift_x=&#8221;0&#8243; shift_y=&#8221;0&#8243; z_index=&#8221;0&#8243; width=&#8221;1\/1&#8243;][vc_empty_space empty_h=&#8221;3&#8243;][vc_custom_heading]<\/p>\n<h1 style=\"text-align: center;\"><\/h1>\n<h1 style=\"text-align: center;\">FRAGMENTE:<br \/>\nLAURA<\/h1>\n<h2 style=\"text-align: center;\"><\/h2>\n<h2 style=\"text-align: center;\"><b>\u201eMi-a fost greu s\u0103 o pierd pe mama, dar oare ei nu i-a fost greu s\u0103 moar\u0103?\u201d<\/b><\/h2>\n<p>[\/vc_custom_heading][vc_empty_space empty_h=&#8221;3&#8243;][vc_column_text]<\/p>\n<h6>colaj:\u00a0Laura Ionescu<br \/>\ntext: Andrada L\u0103utaru<br \/>\nfotografii: Bogdan Dinc\u0103<\/h6>\n<p>[\/vc_column_text][vc_empty_space empty_h=&#8221;3&#8243;][uncode_share layout=&#8221;multiple&#8221; no_back=&#8221;yes&#8221; title=&#8221;SHARE&#8221;][vc_empty_space empty_h=&#8221;3&#8243;][\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row row_height_percent=&#8221;0&#8243; override_padding=&#8221;yes&#8221; h_padding=&#8221;2&#8243; top_padding=&#8221;0&#8243; bottom_padding=&#8221;5&#8243; overlay_color=&#8221;color-xsdn&#8221; overlay_alpha=&#8221;90&#8243; gutter_size=&#8221;3&#8243; shift_y=&#8221;0&#8243; row_name=&#8221;TEXT&#8221;][vc_column column_width_percent=&#8221;65&#8243; overlay_alpha=&#8221;50&#8243; gutter_size=&#8221;3&#8243; medium_width=&#8221;0&#8243; shift_x=&#8221;0&#8243; shift_y=&#8221;0&#8243; z_index=&#8221;0&#8243; width=&#8221;1\/1&#8243;][vc_column_text]<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">12 ianuarie 2007. Ziua \u00een care Laura Ionescu \u0219i Mimi, mama ei, s-au pierdut una pe alta. <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u201eDumnezeu a dat pagina peste noi.\u201d <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Mimi fusese diagnosticat\u0103 cu cancer mamar cu c\u00e2\u021biva ani \u00een urm\u0103, iar Laura avea 17 ani. R\u0103mas\u0103 pe partea asta a lumii, Laura<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> s-a sim\u021bit vinovat\u0103 c\u0103 nu a putut s\u0103 o salveze pe mama ei. Un sentiment pe care, \u00een stadiul incipient al doliului, \u00eel experimenteaz\u0103 mul\u021bi dintre copiii \u0219i adolescen\u021bii care trec printr-o pierdere, aten\u021bioneaz\u0103 psihologii. Anul trecut, Laura Ionescu a lansat cartea <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.publica.ro\/laura-ionescu-nu-te-gasesc-pe-nicaieri.html\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u201eNu te g\u0103sesc pe nic\u0103ieri\u201d<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, modul \u00een care a reu\u0219it s\u0103-\u0219i ia la revedere.<\/span>[\/vc_column_text][vc_empty_space empty_h=&#8221;2&#8243;][\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row unlock_row_content=&#8221;yes&#8221; row_height_percent=&#8221;100&#8243; back_image=&#8221;48270&#8243; back_attachment=&#8221;fixed&#8221; back_position=&#8221;center center&#8221; overlay_alpha=&#8221;50&#8243; gutter_size=&#8221;3&#8243; shift_y=&#8221;0&#8243; row_name=&#8221;TEXT&#8221;][vc_column column_width_percent=&#8221;25&#8243; position_vertical=&#8221;middle&#8221; align_horizontal=&#8221;align_center&#8221; override_padding=&#8221;yes&#8221; column_padding=&#8221;0&#8243; overlay_alpha=&#8221;50&#8243; gutter_size=&#8221;3&#8243; medium_width=&#8221;0&#8243; shift_x=&#8221;0&#8243; shift_y=&#8221;0&#8243; z_index=&#8221;0&#8243; width=&#8221;1\/1&#8243;][vc_empty_space empty_h=&#8221;5&#8243;][vc_empty_space empty_h=&#8221;5&#8243;][\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row row_height_percent=&#8221;0&#8243; override_padding=&#8221;yes&#8221; h_padding=&#8221;2&#8243; top_padding=&#8221;0&#8243; bottom_padding=&#8221;5&#8243; overlay_color=&#8221;color-xsdn&#8221; overlay_alpha=&#8221;90&#8243; gutter_size=&#8221;3&#8243; shift_y=&#8221;0&#8243; row_name=&#8221;TEXT&#8221;][vc_column column_width_percent=&#8221;65&#8243; overlay_alpha=&#8221;50&#8243; gutter_size=&#8221;3&#8243; medium_width=&#8221;0&#8243; shift_x=&#8221;0&#8243; shift_y=&#8221;0&#8243; z_index=&#8221;0&#8243; width=&#8221;1\/1&#8243;][vc_empty_space empty_h=&#8221;3&#8243;][vc_column_text]<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u201eNu e vina ta.\u201d E primul lucru pe care Laura de acum, o femeie de 31 de ani, i l-ar spune oricui trece printr-o astfel de pierdere. \u201eEram prea mic\u0103. Ce puteam s\u0103 \u00een\u021beleg din moarte atunci? Ce \u00een\u021beleg acum?\u201d, se \u00eentreab\u0103 Laura \u00een timp ce ochii i se fac mai mari, exact ca cei ai unui copil pus \u00een fa\u021ba unei ecua\u021bii necunoscute.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>\u201eNu \u0219tiu dac\u0103 po\u021bi s\u0103 salvezi pe cineva, cred c\u0103 po\u021bi s\u0103 iube\u0219ti pe cineva\u201d<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">La 17 ani sim\u021bea c\u0103 trebuie s\u0103 fac\u0103 \u00een a\u0219a fel \u00eenc\u00e2t s\u0103 nu r\u0103m\u00e2n\u0103 sau s\u0103 nu devin\u0103 \u201efata c\u0103reia i-a murit mama\u201d. Laura spune c\u0103 \u00een acele momente cobora \u00een ea \u00eens\u0103\u0219i ca s\u0103 g\u0103seasc\u0103 ceva, dar nu era dec\u00e2t \u00eentuneric. Atunci lupta \u00eempotriva acestei etichete \u00eei d\u0103dea un sens \u00een via\u021ba de zi cu zi.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u201eAm auzit des la oamenii cu care lucrez \u0219i care \u0219i-au pierdut un p\u0103rinte, c\u0103 se simt ca \u0219i cum ar avea un handicap, ca \u0219i cum le-ar lipsi ceva. Ce fac uneori, e s\u0103 ascund\u0103 c\u0103 \u0219i-au pierdut un p\u0103rinte, ca \u0219i cum asta i-ar face pe ei s\u0103 fie mai pu\u021bin dec\u00e2t ceilal\u021bi \u0219i tr\u0103iesc pierderea cu mult\u0103 ru\u0219ine\u201d, subliniaz\u0103 psihoterapeuta Anamaria Dr\u0103gu\u021b\u0103, de la Institutul pentru Studiul \u0219i Tratamentul Traumei (<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.istt.ro\/home\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">ISTT<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">).\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Interac\u021biunile exterioare \u0219i grija pentru ele erau pentru Laura \u0219i o modalitate de a-\u0219i distrage aten\u021bia de la ce sim\u021bea \u00een interior. Treptat, s-a echipat cu mai mult\u0103 via\u021b\u0103 ca s\u0103 \u00een\u021beleag\u0103 ce \u00eenseamn\u0103 moartea. Moartea care \u00een via\u021ba ei avea o traducere precis\u0103: pierderea unui om care c\u00e2nt\u0103re\u0219te at\u00e2t de mult \u00een via\u021ba oric\u0103ruia dintre noi. Mama.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u201eAdolescen\u021ba e o perioad\u0103 foarte important\u0103 \u00een via\u021ba noastr\u0103 \u0219i p\u0103rin\u021bii, chiar dac\u0103 nu mai sunt, poate, at\u00e2t de prezen\u021bi \u00een via\u021ba copiilor, sunt foarte importan\u021bi pentru c\u0103 stabilitatea pe care ei o ofer\u0103 ajut\u0103 dezvoltarea personalit\u0103\u021bii copilului\u201d, mai explic\u0103 psihoterapeuta Anamaria Dr\u0103gu\u021b\u0103.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Laura a aflat atunci c\u0103 \u00een ciuda tuturor preg\u0103tirilor pe care le po\u021bi face pentru a-\u021bi lua la revedere pentru totdeauna de la cineva, chiar dac\u0103 \u0219tii c\u0103 urmeaz\u0103 s\u0103 moar\u0103, nu \u00eenseamn\u0103 c\u0103 e\u0219ti de fapt preg\u0103tit pentru acel moment. Diagnosticul, timpul \u0219i durerea sunt \u0219terse de speran\u021ba cu care vine la pachet fiecare r\u0103suflare.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u0218i, totu\u0219i, no\u021biunea de moarte este printre primele ei amintiri. Avea vreo cinci ani c\u00e2nd a primit \u201eun \u0219oricel mic de plu\u0219, care c\u00e2\u021b\u00e2ia c\u00e2nd \u00eel agitai\u201d. \u00centr-o zi l-a sc\u0103pat pe podea \u0219i s-a g\u00e2ndit c\u0103 poate l-a omor\u00e2t. \u201eNu \u0219tiam ce \u00eenseamn\u0103 c\u00e2nd cineva moare, \u0219tiam doar c\u0103 nu o s\u0103-l mai vezi niciodat\u0103.\u201d\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>Acum, spune c\u0103 asta e diferen\u021ba dintre via\u021b\u0103 \u0219i moarte: pe unii oameni \u00eei vezi c\u00e2nd ai ochii deschi\u0219i \u0219i pe al\u021bii, c\u00e2nd ai ochii \u00eenchi\u0219i.\u00a0<\/b><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>Mama, v\u0103zut\u0103 cu ochii \u00eenchi\u0219i: un colaj\u00a0<\/b><\/p>\n<p>\u201e\u00cei v\u0103d m\u00e2inile \u0219i picioarele.<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Mama zicea c\u0103 e foarte important ca o femeie s\u0103 aib\u0103 picioarele frumoase.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Se referea la laba piciorului.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00cemi amintesc c\u00e2nd \u00eei \u0219tergeam unghiile de la picioare cu aceton\u0103.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">O ajutam s\u0103-\u0219i fac\u0103 manichiura sau pedichiura.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Alb sidefat.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Pe asta o \u021bin eu minte.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Haina ei de blan\u0103 neagr\u0103. Cred c\u0103 era <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">fake<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, c\u0103 nu aveam bani de blan\u0103 adev\u0103rat\u0103.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">O c\u0103ciul\u0103 de iarn\u0103 care ar\u0103ta ca o p\u0103l\u0103rie.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Creionul negru Ada.<\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Te s\u0103rut \u0219i te ador ca pe-un pui de curc\u0103 chior<\/span><\/i><b><i>.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00cemi aduc aminte cum mirosea pielea ei.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A cunoscut.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Un miros pe care nu-l miro\u0219i, e ceva ce \u0219tii.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Avea o aluni\u021b\u0103 pe picior unde o am \u0219i eu.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00cemi amintesc cicatricea l\u0103sat\u0103 de cancer.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">De mastectomie.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Nu pot s\u0103 o mai v\u0103d neap\u0103rat cu totul.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">E a\u0219a, ca un fel de colaj MAMA. \u201d\u00a0 <\/span>[\/vc_column_text][vc_empty_space empty_h=&#8221;2&#8243;][\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row row_height_percent=&#8221;0&#8243; overlay_alpha=&#8221;50&#8243; gutter_size=&#8221;3&#8243; shift_y=&#8221;0&#8243;][vc_column width=&#8221;1\/1&#8243;][vc_single_image media=&#8221;48268&#8243; media_lightbox=&#8221;yes&#8221; media_width_percent=&#8221;100&#8243; alignment=&#8221;center&#8221; lbox_caption=&#8221;yes&#8221; lbox_connected=&#8221;yes&#8221;][\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row row_height_percent=&#8221;0&#8243; override_padding=&#8221;yes&#8221; h_padding=&#8221;2&#8243; top_padding=&#8221;0&#8243; bottom_padding=&#8221;5&#8243; overlay_color=&#8221;color-xsdn&#8221; overlay_alpha=&#8221;90&#8243; gutter_size=&#8221;3&#8243; shift_y=&#8221;0&#8243; row_name=&#8221;TEXT&#8221;][vc_column column_width_percent=&#8221;65&#8243; overlay_alpha=&#8221;50&#8243; gutter_size=&#8221;3&#8243; medium_width=&#8221;0&#8243; shift_x=&#8221;0&#8243; shift_y=&#8221;0&#8243; z_index=&#8221;0&#8243; width=&#8221;1\/1&#8243;][vc_empty_space empty_h=&#8221;3&#8243;][vc_column_text]<b>Doliul<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Pe l\u00e2ng\u0103 cele <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.thriveglobal.ro\/stories\/cele-5-etape-ale-doliului\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">cinci<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> etape ale doliului cunoscute \u00een psihologie <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u2013<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> negarea, furia, negocierea, depresia, acceptarea <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u2013<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> psihoterapeuta Silvia Gu\u021b\u0103 men\u021bioneaz\u0103 c\u0103 poate exista \u0219i o a \u0219asea: <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">g\u0103sirea sensului, orientare c\u0103tre o form\u0103 de vizualizare a viitorului cu ceva pozitiv \u00een el.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Dar modul \u00een care fiecare tr\u0103ie\u0219te doliul r\u0103m\u00e2ne o experien\u021b\u0103 personal\u0103.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u201e\u00cen momentul c\u00e2nd un p\u0103rinte moare se creeaz\u0103 un vid emo\u021bional care nu poate fi \u00eenlocuit de altcineva. Adolescentul (de altfel, orice om, indiferent de v\u00e2rst\u0103) \u00eenva\u021b\u0103 s\u0103 tr\u0103iasc\u0103 cu acest vid, \u00eenva\u021b\u0103 cum s\u0103 \u00eei fac\u0103 loc \u00een via\u021ba sa, dar \u0219i cum s\u0103 nu fie cople\u0219it\u201d, explic\u0103 \u0219i <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">psihologul Roxana Olaru.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>Aceasta ofer\u0103 \u0219i o list\u0103 de lucruri care pot s\u0103 ajute un adolescent \u00een momentul pierderii unui p\u0103rinte:<\/p>\n<p>\u201eAjut\u0103 mereu s\u0103 fie consulta\u021bi cu ceea ce simt c\u0103 le-ar face bine, s\u0103 fie \u00eenv\u0103\u021ba\u021bi s\u0103 nu se \u00eensingureze pentru a nu accentua triste\u021bea, neputin\u021ba \u0219i durerea emo\u021bional\u0103 pe care le vor tr\u0103i. Este important s\u0103 li se vorbeasc\u0103 despre p\u0103rintele disp\u0103rut. Uneori, anturajul de prieteni este prielnic, dar s\u0103 nu ajung\u0103 s\u0103 \u00eenlocuiasc\u0103 rela\u021bia cu p\u0103rintele \u00een via\u021ba. Implicarea \u00een activit\u0103\u021bi comune \u00een familie sunt benefice. De asemenea, practicarea de sport, muzic\u0103 sau alte activit\u0103\u021bi extra\u0219colare pot ajuta.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>Vindecarea<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00cen anii de dup\u0103 ce a pierdut-o pe mama ei, Laurei i s-a confirmat ceva ce \u0219tia la nivel teoretic: nu exist\u0103 o formul\u0103 magic\u0103 prin care \u00ee\u021bi revii. A ajutat-o \u0219i con\u0219tientizarea faptului c\u0103 poate cere ajutorul. \u0218i, mai ales, faptul c\u0103 n-a fost singur\u0103.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u201eM\u0103 \u00eensingurasem \u0219i m\u0103 sim\u021beam singur\u0103, dar am avut o re\u021bea de suport: profa de rom\u00e2n\u0103, sora mea, prietena cea mai bun\u0103.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Dar prezen\u021ba celor dragi nu trebuie s\u0103 fie \u00eenso\u021bit\u0103 neap\u0103rat de cuvinte.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u201eCred c\u0103 mai degrab\u0103 ai nevoie s\u0103 fii \u00eenconjurat de oamenii la care \u021bii cu adev\u0103rat. Nu m-a ajutat nimic din ce am auzit. Texte de genul: \u00abnu se mai chinuie, a ajuns la doamne-doamne\u00bb. OK, dar nu mai e aici.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">De multe ori, cei care trec printr-o astfel de pierdere primesc mil\u0103, nu compasiune, mai puncteaz\u0103 psihoterapeuta Anamaria Dr\u0103gu\u021b\u0103. <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u201e<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Tr\u0103iesc senza\u021bia c\u0103 sunt un caz complicat, c\u0103 e dificil pentru ceilal\u021bi s\u0103 ajute \u00een situa\u021bia respectiv\u0103.\u201d De aceea, e important ca adul\u021bii s\u0103 fie aten\u021bi \u0219i s\u0103 cear\u0103 ajutor de specialitate, dac\u0103 pierderea cauzeaz\u0103 st\u0103ri depresive \u0219i afecteaz\u0103 ritmul de func\u021bionare normal al persoanei mai mult de dou\u0103 s\u0103pt\u0103m\u00e2ni.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>Timpul: \u201eAm ajuns s\u0103 pot vorbi despre ea, ca \u0219i c\u00e2nd ar fi \u00eenc\u0103 aici\u201d\u00a0<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Timpul a fost \u0219i el dintre ingredientele care au ajutat-o pe Laura s\u0103 se vindece dup\u0103 ce \u0219i-a pierdut mama \u00een adolescen\u021b\u0103.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u201eMi-am dat seama c\u0103 nu era povestea mea, era o parte din povestea mea. Eu am pierdut-o, mi-a fost greu s\u0103 o pierd, dar oare ei nu i-a fost greu s\u0103 moar\u0103?\u201d, spune t\u00e2n\u0103ra la final de 2021, \u00eenainte s\u0103 mearg\u0103 la morm\u00e2ntul mamei ei. Cimitirul e ceea ce \u00eei d\u0103 concrete\u021be, faptul c\u0103 poate s\u0103 smulg\u0103 o buruian\u0103, s\u0103 aprind\u0103 o lum\u00e2nare, e ceva mai palpabil fa\u021b\u0103 de discu\u021biile pe care le poart\u0103 cu mama ei \u00een minte.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p>Mama din mintea ei, devenit\u0103 o voce a ra\u021biunii, \u0219i terapia au ajutat-o s\u0103-\u0219i integreze \u201eumbra\u201d \u0219i s\u0103 realizeze c\u0103 nu e at\u00e2t de mare.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>\u201eAsta e vindecarea pentru mine: c\u0103 vorbesc despre mama a\u0219a cum vorbesc despre mamele lor oamenii care \u00eenc\u0103 le mai au l\u00e2ng\u0103 ei. C\u0103 am ajuns s\u0103 pot vorbi despre ea, ca \u0219i cum ar fi \u00eenc\u0103 aici.<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u201d &#8211; Laura Ionescu\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Pentru ca prezentul \u00een care mama ei nu mai era acolo s\u0103 fie mai suportabil, Laura a fost tot timpul cu ochii pe ce urmeaz\u0103: s\u0103 intre la facultate, s\u0103 termine facultatea, s\u0103 termine un master, s\u0103 prind\u0103 un job bun. Avea nevoie s\u0103 reu\u0219easc\u0103. \u0218i a f\u0103cut-o.<\/span>[\/vc_column_text][vc_empty_space empty_h=&#8221;2&#8243;][\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row unlock_row_content=&#8221;yes&#8221; row_height_percent=&#8221;100&#8243; back_image=&#8221;48272&#8243; back_attachment=&#8221;fixed&#8221; back_position=&#8221;center center&#8221; overlay_alpha=&#8221;50&#8243; gutter_size=&#8221;3&#8243; shift_y=&#8221;0&#8243; row_name=&#8221;TEXT&#8221;][vc_column column_width_percent=&#8221;25&#8243; position_vertical=&#8221;middle&#8221; align_horizontal=&#8221;align_center&#8221; override_padding=&#8221;yes&#8221; column_padding=&#8221;0&#8243; overlay_alpha=&#8221;50&#8243; gutter_size=&#8221;3&#8243; medium_width=&#8221;0&#8243; shift_x=&#8221;0&#8243; shift_y=&#8221;0&#8243; z_index=&#8221;0&#8243; width=&#8221;1\/1&#8243;][vc_empty_space empty_h=&#8221;5&#8243;][vc_empty_space empty_h=&#8221;5&#8243;][\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row row_height_percent=&#8221;0&#8243; override_padding=&#8221;yes&#8221; h_padding=&#8221;2&#8243; top_padding=&#8221;0&#8243; bottom_padding=&#8221;5&#8243; overlay_color=&#8221;color-xsdn&#8221; overlay_alpha=&#8221;90&#8243; gutter_size=&#8221;3&#8243; shift_y=&#8221;0&#8243; row_name=&#8221;TEXT&#8221;][vc_column column_width_percent=&#8221;65&#8243; overlay_alpha=&#8221;50&#8243; gutter_size=&#8221;3&#8243; medium_width=&#8221;0&#8243; shift_x=&#8221;0&#8243; shift_y=&#8221;0&#8243; z_index=&#8221;0&#8243; width=&#8221;1\/1&#8243;][vc_empty_space empty_h=&#8221;3&#8243;][vc_column_text]<b>Cartea. La revedere<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u201eMama avea felul ei de a face cuvintele s\u0103 o asculte \u0219i de a-i face pe ceilal\u021bi s\u0103-i asculte cuvintele. Nu \u0219tiu pe unde le auzea \u0219i nu mi-e clar cum le transforma \u00een altceva, dar am crescut v\u0103z\u00e2nd-o cum m\u0103 porecle\u0219te \u0219i c\u00e2t poate s\u0103 fie de de\u0219teapt\u0103 la nivel lingvistic. Pe limba ei, cuvintele se topeau ca z\u0103h\u0103rul \u0219i ascultau de o alt\u0103 logic\u0103, una pe care nu am \u00een\u021beles-o niciodat\u0103. \u0102sta a fost cadoul pe care l-am primit de la ea, cuvintele pe care nu mi le puteam lua \u00eenapoi, cuvintele pe care, dac\u0103 m\u0103 str\u0103duiam suficient, le puteam transforma \u00een ce voiam eu. Mi-a ar\u0103tat cum te po\u021bi juca tot restul vie\u021bii tale dac\u0103 renun\u021bi la p\u0103pu\u0219i \u0219i adop\u021bi cuvintele.\u201d &#8211; Un fragment din cartea lansat\u0103 \u00een 2021 de Laura Ionescu<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Cartea \u201e<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.libertatea.ro\/stiri\/iubirea-care-ramane-cand-iti-pierzi-un-parinte-interviu-cu-scriitoarea-laura-ionescu-despre-prima-ei-carte-o-conversatie-pe-care-mi-as-fi-dorit-s-o-am-cu-mama-3878321\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Nu te g\u0103sesc pe nic\u0103ieri<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u201d pe care a lansat-o \u00een 2021 este modul \u00een care a reu\u0219it s\u0103-\u0219i ia la revedere. S\u0103 realizeze c\u0103 a crescut. S\u0103 a\u0219eze durerea din interior \u00een cuvinte pe care s\u0103 le trimit\u0103 \u00een lume. S\u0103 \u0219tie c\u0103 iubirea pentru mama ei este acolo \u0219i cre\u0219te \u00een continuare. C\u00e2nd a murit Mimi, Laura a scris despre asta, dar nu \u00eentr-un mod direct: erau poezii, chestii criptice, inventa cuvinte.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u201eA luat super mult s\u0103-mi dau seama c\u0103 pot s\u0103 scriu despre experien\u021ba asta f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 mai arunc cu zah\u0103r pe ea, f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 o mai sparg \u00een chestii abstracte.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Iar cea mai dureroas\u0103 revela\u021bie din carte a fost c\u0103 \u201ef\u0103r\u0103 ea, eu nu mai pot s\u0103 fiu copil\u201d, spune Laura.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: right;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.libertatea.ro\/stiri\/drumul-lung-al-vindecarii-dupa-moartea-unui-parinte-cand-esti-copil-laura-ionescu-3917737\">Articolul a ap\u0103rut \u00een publica\u021bia &#8220;Libertatea&#8221;.<\/a><\/p>\n<p>[\/vc_column_text][vc_empty_space empty_h=&#8221;2&#8243;][\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row row_height_percent=&#8221;0&#8243; 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